When a Church becomes Cultic

I used to have a book on my shelves which had the title When a Church becomes a Cult.  It has not survived the house moves since retirement, so I can only remember its contents in outline.  I believe it was written with a conservative Christian perspective so that I was not in agreement with some of its presuppositions.  But the problems that the book raised, even in its title, are important ones to all of us.  However much we want to see clear water between our churches and fellowships and the so-called cults, the contrast or differences between them are not always so obvious to an onlooking public.   How many non-church people can clearly tell the difference between door-knocking Jehovah’s Witnesses and members of a local Pentecostal group? 

As the long-term readers of this blog will know, I have been a member and a participant in an international organisation which studies the groups, political and religious, that are loosely described as cults.  The organisation called ICSA (International Cultic Studies Association), has been encouraging the study of these ‘high-demand’ groups for over 40 years.  The association is aware of the difficulties of language in this area of study.  While I do not propose to offer definitions of the word cult, there is a consensus that it is appropriate to use the adjectival form, cultic, to denote the fact that there are many groups which share a family resemblance to well-known and publicly identified cults.  These latter ones would include such groups as Jim Jones’ community in Guyana, the Branch Davidians of Waco and the Korean based group, commonly called Moonies after their founder, Sun Myung Moon. 

My ICSA membership and the conversations it has allowed me to have during their conferences, has kept me constantly asking myself a key question.  While churches would normally vigorously distinguish themselves from cultic bodies, are they all justified in doing so?  This blog piece will suggest that some church bodies do stray into behaving in ways that are close to those practised by high demand cultic groups.  When they do this, it is not surprising if observers on the outside find it hard always to tell the differences between them.   The impression that the outside world picks up about the behaviour of leaders and members of some of our churches does not always conform to the highest standards of ethical behaviour.  Social media followers and readers of daily newspapers also cannot be blamed if they pick up some strange ideas about what Christians claim to believe. If the Church were to be only to be a network of closed social groups, then its public reputation and profile might not matter.  If, on the other hand, it wants to reach out to the wider society with a message, then the reputation it wants to have is of some considerable importance.

I have pondered the apparent similarities between the groups we describe as cultic and some churches. Here I want touch on three areas where there is room for misunderstandings and seeming overlap.  The first is in the area of a claim to possess utterly reliable, even infallible, texts.   For the Christian this would normally be a devotion to the Bible. On its own devotion to the words of Scripture is not in itself a sign of cultic leanings. Other groups might find their ultimate authority in other foundation texts like the Book of Mormon or the writings of L Ron Hubbard. In the second place, we would expect to find at the centre of every cultic group, and churches which resemble them, a leader who exercises a degree of charismatic and coercive control over ordinary members.  In some groups and churches this control would appear to be abusive and exploitative.  A third feature of the more dedicated cultic groups is their readiness to withdraw from mainstream society and engage in what we might regard as intense forms of community living.

In each of these three marks of behaviour or practice which can slip over into the cultic arena, we can see that some churches are not always clearly differentiated from full-blown cultic groups.  The first area where some Christian bodies seem to have much in common with cultic groups is in the way that the group treats its primary written authority.  Whether it is the Bible, or some unique revelation given to a founder, a similar dependence and devotion to that scripture can be seen.  At this point I am not arguing for or against the truth of any written authority around which a church or cultic group is organised.  I simply note that such a document is used as a touchstone for everything else.  The believer/devotee is tied to that document as the mediating force of all truth.  If a belief or form of behaviour is thought to be contradicted by the central source document, it has to be rejected.  This is what I have elsewhere called binary thinking.  Not all examples of binary thinking qualify a church to be described as cultic, but all cultic groups seem to operate with this notion that everything is either true or false.   There is no space for a gradual discovery of any new insight or revelation.  All that is important has already been written down for our learning by L Ron Hubbard, Moon or God.  From my perspective such binary thinking Christians are moving with a similar world perspective as that operating within all the cultic groups.  I have written about this attitude to truth many times.  My summary here will be to say that, if truth is found at the beginning of life’s journey, there is no possibility of discovering newness, creativity and wonder at some stage late in life. Binary thinking is a kind of intellectual cul-de-sac, and it is hard to escape from it.

Along with binary thinking there is another feature of cultic groups which they share with many Christian bodies. This is what I call the narcissistic exchange. This expression summarises a distinctive but often toxic quality of relationship found in Christian and cultic groups alike. It describes the adulation and prominence given to a leader when followers get caught up in a kind of uncritical worship of their figurehead.   It is narcissistic because first it seems to be feeding an inner need for such flattery and importance in the leader.  Often the leader is deliberately kept physically apart from the followers so as to enhance his mystique and apparent holiness.  This kind of superior detachment is apparent in both the cults and some large churches.  The inner circle around the leader is there to protect the leader/guru from getting too close to the followers. They might then see behind the curtain that the leader is an ordinary fallible human being.  The followers do, of course, have their chance to venerate a leader when he appears at a highly choreographed event like a service or gathering.  They then receive their ‘narcissistic feeding’ because the leader will do his own version of flattery towards the congregation.  He will tell them that they are the chosen saved group and he will always protect them.  The self-esteem of the individual followers is this way being fed by the scraps of attention that they receive, even at a distance. In a somewhat different context, we see something of this narcissistic exchange going on in political rallies organised by Donald Trump.

The third area of recognisably cultic experience which churches share with the cultic groups is the way that each organises the experience of community life.  Loneliness is a major problem in our society and there is particular trauma associated with growing up in Western societies. The trauma experienced by most young people is that around leaving home.  The support of parents is not always available when the adult world is first encountered. Many churches and cultic groups recognise this state of deprivation. They offer experiences of community life which may make few demands on those who come. The problem about fellowships in some churches and cultic groups is that they may be offered as a kind of palliative to the trauma of growing up.  Here you don’t have to engage with conflict and other painful learning about relationships that is the normal part of entering adulthood. To offer fellowship or an instant friendship circle to a lonely individual may act as an instant pain relief in the short term, but it may not be necessarily in the individual’s long-term interest. One of the issues much discussed at the ICSA conferences is the issue of readjustment to modern society after membership of a cult. In some cases, the individual has never had to deal with conflict, housing, money or mature relationships. At the age of 35, the ex-cult/fellowship member may find themselves all alone and unable to cope emotionally or practically with the world that they had been encouraged to leave behind at the age they joined the church or cultic group.

These three experiences, binary thinking, narcissistic exchange and claustrophobic experiences of community life – these are three areas which can create emotional, social and intellectual disability in churches and cultic groups alike.  An army of psychotherapists seem to exist in the States to help individuals recover and return to maturity and resilience, but far fewer seem to exist in Britain.  It is not that we lack qualified people to do psychotherapy, but few trained here seem to understand the religious aspects of the trauma created by cultic groups and the churches that resemble them.  The therapists in the States also face the current political madness of Trumpian inspired conspiracy theories.  This deeply corrupted thinking seems thoroughly entrenched in churches of many kinds.  To call it a political and religious craziness is probably no exaggeration

In the New Testament there is a word which is translated perfect. The Greek word, teleios, in fact means something like complete or mature. The question that we have is whether we are helping those who come to our churches to move towards completion, fulfilment and the finding of their full potential. Surely that is a good and laudable aim for all Christian churches, one that does not involve the immaturity found so many cult-like fellowships and congregations.

About Stephen Parsons

Stephen is a retired Anglican priest living at present in Cumbria. He has taken a special interest in the issues around health and healing in the Church but also when the Church is a place of harm and abuse. He has published books on both these issues and is at present particularly interested in understanding how power works at every level in the Church. He is always interested in making contact with others who are concerned with these issues.

10 thoughts on “When a Church becomes Cultic

  1. It is possible to become cultic without realising it, in our practice of Christianity. Where do we get our data from in the conduct of our everyday lives? Does the leader allow only his take on the world to be acceptable? Are we discouraged from watching the news and reading from “non-Christian books”?

    A subtle way of imprisoning church members is to limit the data they receive. Quite often we are prepared to go along with this if the charismatic (small “c”) and enthralling Christian celebrity tells us so. It doesn’t matter how intelligent you are, if you don’t receive or allow in pertinent information about the true state of the world around you, you will inadvertently be lead astray.

    That’s not to say all news is good or reliable; books also. It all has to be weighed carefully. But if we only watch a right wing channel, or a left biased one, if we only read books by leaders at Bethel, or Willow Creek, or by John Stott, we are not going to get a true picture of the world. We can easily become cloistered in a cultic way without realising how narrow we have become.

    This is why Stephen’s piece is such an important one. It’s easy to assume we’d never fall for the three features key to identifying the cult. But actually, across my life’s experience of varying church cultures, these characteristics are hiding in plain sight.

    The God of truth welcomes honest scrutiny. We would do well to strive against binary thinking. It’s hardly ever an accurate picture.

    Limiting ourselves to a narrow community, to the exclusion of other people, is rarely healthy.

    There is a lot more material available about narcissistic leadership, but the term is pejorative and often avoided. In itself its use can be quite binary, whereas there are narcissistic traits in all of us. Nevertheless there is a marked tendency to cultivate the narcissism at the top, as part of the human condition to desire brilliance in those who lead us.

    1. Who benefits from an overly cautious approach to using the word narcissistic? Narcissists do. It’s not that difficult to separate the traits (which, as you say, can apply to anyone) from the personality disorder or even the concept of an individual scoring high on narcissistic traits.

      I noticed many of the “red flags” of my abuser (evangelical leader) but it wasn’t until I stumbled on the clinical definition of the personality disorder that I could make enough sense of the pattern to remove myself from that bewildering situation. The toxic side of a narcissistic leader is almost always expressed one-on-one in private – which means victims in a church context are unlikely to be believed or supported by other members of the congregation who have only been exposed to more benign manipulations (charm) or anything that has plausible deniability. Most of what a narcissist does is only noticed after everyone has a good understanding of the pattern (personality type).

      There is always the risk of misapplying the word ‘narcissistic’, especially as it has a commonly understood definition that can be applied to everyone, but again only abusers take comfort in ensuring that the risk of making too much of those red flags outweighs the benefits.

  2. “When a Church becomes a Cult”: Stephen Wookey, Hodder and Stoughton 1996 – it just happened to be on top of one of my piles

  3. A splendid piece, Stephen, and one which very much accords with Masters’-level studies I did many years ago. As you say, the word” cult” is often used pejoratively, while sociologists would use it simple as a way of describing a particular form of organisation. One thing you only touch on is the way in which some cultic groups claim to exclusively claim salvific “secret knowledge” and are thus modern-day Gnostics.

    You will I’m sure be aware of the way in which a first-generation cult (if it doesn’t implode, that is) becomes a second-generation sect and a third-generation denomination as it loses its “sharp boundaries”. You will also know how “splinter groups” often form down the years, asserting that they are the true heirs of the original values while the original group has “cooled down” – for instance the Bible Christians and Primitive Methodists in the early 1800s.

    I do think that it’s very easy for groups to become cultic without necessarily realising it. I remember attending a service in a charismatic Anglican church in which the (lay) leader was strongly manipulating the congregation without realising it – I hope someone told her that she needed to be more aware of the power she was wielding.

    One humorous thought: I lived in Portugal for some years and there all non-Catholic services are described (including on church noticeboards) as “Cultos”. It’s a normal word so I don’t know what they use to describe “cults” as we understand the term!

    1. Well, now I find myself in the position of someone who finds a testimony hard to believe! I will totally accept what you say. But my own experience makes it hard for me to believe that a lay leader would have much power! And I hope people understand that. I’m sure others would have the same problem.

  4. Evangelical churches can be narcissistic traps – where all of the emphasis is on (largely benign) manipulations, façade management and social conformity. The friendliness of evangelicals can also seem somewhat fake to outsiders because joining the church is conditional on mirroring every aspect of evangelical life (compliance) and any form of community outreach is usually linked to a project (that elevates the status of the church leader).

    I walked straight into one of these traps as the cultic elements of evangelical churches aren’t so obvious as they are in proper cults. Most cult leaders are narcissists (NPD) but evangelical church leaders tend to be less extreme than that – still on the narcissistic scale but content to have a congregation full of independent but compliant personality types rather than maintain an elaborate system of social control.

  5. ‘Many highly successful individuals display personality traits that might be considered narcissistic. Only when these traits are inflexible, maladaptive and persisting and cause significant functional impairment or subjective distress do they constitute narcissistic personality disorder’ (DSM – 5 p672).

    I think Joe is right to emphasise the importance of identifying narcissism in our church leaders whether or not it’s the full blown disorder. Those of us who have grown up with, been in a relationship with or worked for a severe narcissist, and have studied the matter, will likely be highly sensitised to it.

    Calling out a narcissist is easier said than done. Those making it to senior leadership have a coterie of feeders around them, making the dynamics of their position rather difficult to dislodge. Many of us inadvertently are drawn into such a feeder role, supplying the overestimation so essential to their continuance. In doing so, our own needs of survival and at least a modicum of recognition are hopefully met. Sometimes the symbiosis is complex and not easy to untangle. Calling it out is still important, but only part of a more considered approach to enable others to have the strength to leave the narcissist’s web. Church communities are often steeped in such dynamics. We often wonder why they survive so long. But there’s good reason.

    Unfortunately, severe narcissism seems almost intractable, as witnessed by those in other walks of life eg politics, still wandering around making a nuisance of themselves. But we still pray and help those around them, damaged by their distressing behaviour.

  6. Really good points from Steve and Joe S.

    Narcissism is definitely a part of the cult-like worship of a leader. Evangelical leaders can and do behave in a way that can be described as coercive control. In the Hillsong Exposed documentary, the participants say that the signs on the walls say “you belong”. And many evangelical settings encourage a “just as you are” approach – initially. They only mean you can wear denim to church.

    But beware! You only belong as long as you don’t question anything the leader says. You are there to worship and adore. The charismatic, charming, narcissistic leader laps up the narcissistic supply. Start asking any questions and you will see the ice cold chill behind that warm façade.

    If you have experienced this, you will know how damaging it is to faith. If you suspect you’re experiencing this – run and take cover

  7. One of the best ways to spot a cultic church is, ironically, by seeing how friendly it is.

    Churches take on the personality of their rectors, and if you bump into a parish that is unbelievably friendly and welcoming, with a lot of attention paid to the rector and a lot of ugly behind-the-scenes activities, be very wary.

    Sit, watch, wait, listen. Don’t let anyone volunteer you for deeper participation for at least a year.

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