Giving the church a bad name

Church bad nameWords have a habit of subtly changing their meaning over relatively short periods of time. This may come about as fashions change, or an attitude in society moves in a particular direction. One of the words that has changed its meaning, causing sadness for many of us, is the word ‘Christian’. A few years ago the word meant a decent honest reliable person, someone anybody could do business with. Today the word, sadly, has become associated for many with a set of right wing attitudes, authoritarianism, homophobia and smug superiority. Worse, the word has, in some cases, come to be associated in some people’s minds with acts of betrayal towards others, like paedophilia and discrimination against women. For the time being, at any rate, the Church of England and other mainstream church communities still retains some of the good-will that it has built up over the centuries in society. It remains to be seen if this broadly benevolent attitude towards the C of E is continued as the parish system increasingly lurches towards being, not an institution serving the whole community, but a sect-like gathering for the religiously like-minded. Will the word ‘church’ come eventually to acquire negative connotations as seems to have happened to the word Christian?

I may have told the story about a pious family in my parish whose small son died as a baby. They were not members of my congregation but I still knew them quite well as members of the community. The mother took over the organising the funeral for the child but the whole process was delayed while she made frantic phone-calls to discover who was a ‘Christian’ undertaker. None of our local undertakers was considered Christian according to her sectarian definition, so eventually the ceremony was organised by a firm some fifty miles away. I was certainly unable to offer suggestions in this search. This idea that only some businesses are wholesome because they have people who are, not only members of churches, but also the right kind of churches, is quite widespread among some congregations. I have, from time to time, been told that I am not a proper Christian because a) I read the Bible in a different way from ‘true’ Christians and b) I do not ‘preach the gospel’ (not every sermon calls for repentance). This accusation has left me puzzled. Should I be upset that my beliefs and Christian priorities are considered beyond the pale, or should I be relieved that I am not expected to fit into the straight-jacket of increasingly sectarian expressions of the Christian faith? I cannot, in fact, be the only clergyman whose words and writings are scrutinised to see whether they conform to one or other of the Protestant articulations of the Christian faith. To say that this kind of scrutiny is not an irritant and indeed an undermining of morale, would be to downplay the situation. From the perspective of retirement I can see fairly clearly what was going on. I was observing a trend among individuals and congregations to understand the Christian faith in an increasingly polarised way. This is all part of the binary thinking we have discussed before. You are either in the fold or outside it. There is only black or white with no possibility of grey.

The more that ‘binary’ Christians see themselves as apart and distinct from others, whether Christian or not, the more that the bulk of society will become estranged from the word ‘Christian’ and move towards finding the word offensive. The good-will I spoke of above, which has been built up over centuries of hard-working service towards the poor and the sick, could be dissipated in a couple of generations. The ordinary member of the public when encountering the word ‘Christian’ will think not of selfless service of others but of bigotry and exclusion. Certain words from the Bible appear to support the desire of sectarian Christians to alienate and antagonise others, particularly the passage at the end of the Beatitudes: ‘Blessed are you when men revile you and persecute you and utter all kinds of evil against you falsely on my account’. For some Christian groups, this appears to give them permission to irritate, upset and generally fall out with others outside their group whether Christian or secular. It is a mark of honour among many cultic groups to receive the disapproval of others. There is the psychological fact that groups under attack will draw closer together, but also the group convinces itself that truth and goodness will always be under threat of attack because that was the calling of Jesus.

The words in Matthew immediately after the quote made from chapter 5 give a somewhat different perspective on the Christian relationship to the world. Jesus tells his disciples that they are to be salt and light ‘of the world’. I draw attention to the preposition ‘of’, because it is significant that Jesus does not talk about the light and the salt being somehow separate and being introduced to it. Salt and light are already part of what the world consists of. Christians are to be those who reveal what is already there but may have been buried or hidden. I find the idea that Christians are helping to uncover what is already there in the world a far better description of mission, than the idea that the world is totally corrupt and ignorant. Our Christian ancestors in Britain have been working away at bringing light and understanding to many areas of society – hospitals, schools, care of the disabled, the poor and even into politics. I still find it a matter of comment that it is politicians that have seen the justice and rightness of extending marriage to the gay population in the teeth of opposition from many Christians. We are not far off from sending a clear message to society that a Christian is defined by his or her attitude to gay sex. So often we have heard earnest Christians in legal cases saying that their ‘faith’ forbids them acting generously towards a gay couple. How long will it be before this kind of attitude becomes fixed in people’s minds? Are we really to live in a world where the word ‘Christian’ means an intolerant bigot? Can the rest of us, who care for the values of tolerance and generosity to those who are minorities in thought or action, reclaim the word Christian? It will take a lot of work and effort for Christians once again to imply that we are followers of Jesus in his attitude to the poor, the weak, the oppressed and minorities. This blog is one small effort in holding up a flag to reclaim for the Christian faith the values of generosity and acceptance of others even when they are not like us.

About Stephen Parsons

Stephen is a retired Anglican priest living at present in Cumbria. He has taken a special interest in the issues around health and healing in the Church but also when the Church is a place of harm and abuse. He has published books on both these issues and is at present particularly interested in understanding how power works at every level in the Church. He is always interested in making contact with others who are concerned with these issues.

6 thoughts on “Giving the church a bad name

  1. One off the things that marks out the professing Christian organized Church today, is the sheer amount of baggage activity that goes on inside it, under the umbrella of ‘Christianity’.

    The Bible study, the weekly (So – called) prayer meeting, visiting speakers, parish council meetings, forward planning, praise band rehearsals’ I could go on.

    It has been my complete experience in this neck of the woods, that the church is an inverted playground for the middle classes.
    It is blinkered and indifferent to the needs of the common people (Where I rank myself).

    I have been attempting to engage the local churches in my area for many years. I have asked for support for the Care Community Action Group that will assist the dreadful amount of lonely, elderly people in this town, and also provide a action group for those helpless elderly people in residential nursing homes, who feel abused and neglected. I have to this date got nowhere.

    It is a sad reality, that those people outside the church, far from misjudging the Established Church, mostly get it completely right.

    What an absolute tragedy.

    Chris

  2. Stephen, please see my post on 4 August 2015 at 9:56 under the previous heading “Conservatives or liberals”.

  3. Chris, I do think it’s important for the praise group to practise! And like minded people like to spend time together. Are you trying to get the churches to organise a group for the elderly? Or trying to set one up yourself with the support of the local churches? They may do all kinds of things for the elderly that you don’t know about if you’re not a church member. But you may be right that they don’t. Obviously, I don’t know. But if you’re prepared to put in some of the work, it may come good. All the best.

  4. Thanks E/A,

    Sorry if this is a bit long. Let me start by saying that this is a area where you either protect the veneer of your own ‘Holiness’ so that it doesn’t get it chipped, by the finger pointing brigade of Churchy people, or you get out into the real world where real (Not imagined) hidden suffering takes place, and the pious easy cop out meathead judgers crucify you . I emphasise residential nursing care for very good reasons, I have 36 years experience working in that area hands on. I also know that none of the whistle blowers that I know of have been re – employed in the care profession. I think a glance at carecommunityaction.uk will save me explaining here.

    This will be clumsy. It maybe hard to believe but there are certain areas in this country where indifference rules. Were it not for Stephen Parsons my experience would never have hit the light of day. He has enabled me to give a unique insight for once from the bottom up, he needs to be thanked for that.

    I work voluntarily with people disempowered in the workplace (See chrispitts.co.uk) . This takes up most of my time. However, I honestly truly have tried to engage the local churches to no avail. I can tell you of Evangelical ministers and others who have moved out of this area of Essex broken by its indifference! I can tell you of ministers who have banged the phone down on me.
    I can tell you of Care- Assistants who have been threatened if they speak out.

    I and others knew about the failings of a residential home (In this area) that was given a clean bill of health by the CQC, only to be exposed weeks later on headline TV allowing vile abuse.

    All this should give you some idea that this is an area close to Satan’s toilet?

    If you find it hard to believe this, Pray for me, because I solemnly assure you that at this point in my life, the world is my Asylum.
    It seems the only way I can change is to get a good plastic surgeon, I am beginning to feel like and, look like a poached egg.

    Peace and Love,

    Chris

  5. I have found in various parishes that some of the most effective Chrstians were so involved outside the Church that all they could do once a week, was to attend an 8 o’clock Holy Communion Service.They were indeed “The salt of the earth”

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