
By Caroline Newman
This article is sent in by a reader of the blog. The author is of African Caribbean background. The article gives us a perspective on power dynamics and safeguarding issues in the Church that we have not hitherto encountered on this blog. Caroline’s struggles with the ‘system’ in her battle over safeguarding will be familiar to many of my readers, but the added layer of reactionary racial attitudes gives her account a special power and topical relevance. All of us need to be sensitised to the voices of a community which historically has found it hard to make its voice heard. Caroline is thus helping all of us to think about power issues and church safeguarding in a new way.
I was born in the 1960s and my parents are of the Windrush generation. This article contains my experience of church and my opinion about ongoing matters in the diocese in which I live and worship.
I have attended various churches throughout my life. I started out in a Pentecostal church. Recently, I have been questioning why I go to church at all and if it is necessary. Aren’t church people supposed to be better than the rest? Aren’t “heathens” supposed to look up to us? Aren’t we supposed to lead “non-Christians” to Jesus and ultimately to join us in church?
In 2012 I started attending a Church of England church in a diocese in the south of England. The vicar was from Pakistan and of Asian descent. Prior to his arrival the church had always had white male vicars. Apparently this vicar was not the first choice of the members, who are mainly older and white. Their first choice (white male) withdrew and the second choice, the Asian vicar was appointed. Members of the church have told me he was “forced onto them” by the Bishop.
The Asian vicar told me that the members of the church “made my life hell”. He told me that they refused to help him. They were disruptive of his efforts at PCC meetings. I wondered why his son, daughter and nephew were always up at the altar serving and generally helping him. He told me that the members “don’t want to work with him or help him so he has to use whoever will help him”. I told him “it didn’t look right” having all brown people on the altar and all the white people not on the altar but on the benches, those who still came. Black and brown people were in the minority although that number grew while he was the incumbent. Non-whites felt welcomed by him.
Members of the church told me “he has a funny accent”, “we can’t understand what he is saying”, he is “always late requesting assistance or in the planning of services”. They said this is the reason why they won’t work with him. Because he asked them too late and was “disorganised”. The vicar stayed over 7 years at the parish after which he was promoted to Archdeacon in another area. The vicar told me that he had implored the Diocese to introduce unconscious bias training but they had refused. The vicar also told me that whenever he would report racism to the Bishop he was told to “hang in there”. They took no action to provide training or to raise the issue of race discrimination with the members of the church or even with the Parochial Church Council.
I should say that since we started attending the church, black women have tolerated various micro aggressions by the white members; questions and comments about our hair and clothes, wanting to touch our hair or just touching it without permission, being misnamed and mixed up with each other. Black members of the worship team were told they could not sing cultural songs as the members would not like it. Their attire was scrutinised and criticised. We were told “this is not a black church”. I was even told that if I did not like it I should “go to Jesus House” (a majority black church).
Then came the pandemic and various “lockdowns”. In May 2021 the PCC appointed a new vicar, a white male, with whom they were happy. I was appointed a churchwarden in April 2021.
As soon as I started to get involved with the church I experienced race discrimination. I also heard racist and sexist insults about other church employees (eastern Europeans) by the white English members. I was most uncomfortable with the racism and sexism. Initially I kept quiet. Although I felt obliged to call out the casual racism towards others, at first I did not address the racism I personally experienced. Then in July 2021 my position became intolerable when I experienced direct racial discrimination by the other Churchwarden (a white woman).
I reported this to the new vicar, hoping that he would at least use his position to tackle the issue of racial discrimination and perhaps recommend training for the leadership team. Instead, he turned on me and took the side of the other churchwarden and decided that I had to be moved on. Together they manufactured disciplinary situations and tried to force me out of the position because I had made accusations of discrimination. It was textbook victimisation.
I also had a report of a safeguarding concern. I reported the race discrimination and safeguarding concerns to the bishops of the diocese and the chair of the PCC. Their instincts were to make excuses for the vicar “he’s inexperienced”; “he didn’t mean any harm”; “it was meant as a compliment” and to sweep it under the carpet. The diocese tried to force me to sign an NDA so I could not discuss my report with anyone. It was clear from the start that they did not want the take the race discrimination or the safeguarding situation seriously. They just wanted to protect the vicar and the reputation of the diocese. I declined the offer of mediation and an enforced NDA. I was then told they could not investigate the vicar as only the Clergy Discipline Measure (CDM) process could do that. I would have to pursue that myself. I had never heard of a CDM. So, while they were investigating the churchwarden and employees for race discrimination, I completed the CDM. The investigation was of course a white wash designed to protect the vicar.
Then the tsunami of victimisation by church members started against me and the person they believed had made the safeguarding report. The victimisation against me continues to today. I was even subjected to verbal abuse and harassment at the church and had to involve the police. Because it was deemed a racially aggravated offence, a criminal investigation was carried out. I have now taken my claim against the diocese, the PCC, the vicar and others who have harassed, victimised or abused me to the Employment Tribunal. Instead of trying to resolve the issues and take responsibility and accountability, the diocese, the vicar and the PCC (funded by Ecclesiastical Insurance) are arguing that a churchwarden elected by the parishioners, appointed by the Bishop as his representative in the Parish and appointed as a trustee of the PCC (a registered charity) does not have the status or standing to take a claim to the Tribunal to address the issues.
I wrote to the Archbishop of Canterbury telling him what was going on in the diocese. I told him that I was being coerced into signing an NDA even though he had decreed that NDAs should not be used. My first letter was ignored. Then I wrote again and I received a reply to this second letter. He essentially said these issues are delegated to the diocese. This sounded very familiar to the issues raised by the survivor of abuser, the late Trevor Devamanikkam when the Diocese declined to take responsibility for dealing with abuse.
Soul Survivor Watford (SSW)
I left my church in July 2022, as a result of the victimisation. I started going to Soul Survivor after trying several other churches in July 2022. I like Soul Survivor and just as we were settling there we were informed on 4 April 2023 that Mike Pilavachi was being investigated for serious safeguarding issues.
There were some things about SSW that had caused me discomfort. Firstly, the leadership had said on several occasions that SSW “aimed for family, and settled for a mess”. With the background I have and the experiences I have had in life, in churches and in organisations I felt this would become a problem, even before this issue with Mike Pilavachi came to light. If you settle for a mess you will have a mess. I had checked the website and there were none of the governance policies that should be there according to the law and the Church of England’s own guidance.
I was shocked when I heard the content of the statement about Mike. I felt traumatised because I had left the other church because of abuse and safeguarding concerns in a church. I have been crying a lot since then as I weep for the church and the young people having some affinity with what they have gone through.
Mike was suspended followed by some of the other pastors in the church. I was surprised to learn of the allegations against Mike. I was not surprised to learn that people in senior positions in Soul Survivor and the diocese knew of the allegations and did nothing. This fits with my experience of the Church of England. Ignore it when it is happening and then try and sweep it under the carpet. Protect the vicar and the reputation of the Church of England at all costs.
I have become increasingly concerned about the investigation that is taking place by the safeguarding team in the diocese and the National Safeguarding team.
It is my firm belief that the authorities of my diocese should have no part in the investigation of the historical and current safeguarding issues at Soul Survivor. I now believe firmly that this investigation should be carried out by an independent body.
I agree wholeheartedly with others that the Church has failed in relation to protecting victims of sexual abuse, spiritual abuse and racial abuse.
I say this not to diminish the serious issues raised in the safeguarding investigation but to point to a pattern of conduct from my diocese in relation to protecting vulnerable people from abuse. Discriminatory abuse is included in the Bishop’s guidance on safeguarding but it has not been taken seriously locally. Abuse in church has to stop. In my experience the diocese is incapable of management and leadership. The Church needs to bring in professional advisers and, if necessary, professional experts to help them sort out the mess they have created.
Well run and funded corporations struggle with these issues so it is inevitable that most clergy will be incapable of dealing with these issues.
Too many people have been left broken by abuse in churches. I agree with Gavin Drake that the Church of England is not a safe place for vulnerable people. But they don’t care. Sadly, they are more interested in preserving the institution than protecting the people they are called to serve.
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