I cannot be the only person trying to puzzle a way through the divisions that exist in the Anglican Communion at present. As I have said several times before, the main topic of the debate, issues around sexuality, is a deeply contentious one, one that I draw back from involvement in. This is partly because I do not believe that I have anything to add to the passion and complexity of the issues in this debate. The other more important reason is that I see the fundamental issue as going far deeper than our opinions and beliefs about human sexuality. In simple terms I see the current divisions within Anglicanism as being closely bound up with the culture wars being fought and paid for by enormously powerful and wealthy conservative forces in the States. These right-wing interests hope to take control of society on behalf of a religiously infused nationalism in America and across the world. Liberal thinking in politics or religion is a threat to that bid for power.
Our Anglican debates are probably a mere side-show within this larger picture, but these lobby groups have stirred up enormous passion in these discussions about sexuality. Thirty years ago, the LGBT debate was a non-issue. It certainly was nowhere thought to be a defining measure of who was or who was not a Christian. One reading of Anglican history suggests that the deliberate ramping up of this issue was orchestrated by a group of well-funded conservative Anglicans. They met in Kuala Lumpur in February 1997. They seem to have made a deliberate decision to put the same sex issue to the fore and ensure that it was a key item for discussion at Lambeth 1998. A hitherto minor point of disagreement was thus weaponised and turned into a means of uniting Anglican conservatives together in their bid to become the dominant faction in the Communion.
The current thinking by the Archbishops of Canterbury and York seems to be a wish that the different factions in the Anglican Communion and the Church of England might move towards a situation of gracious stalemate. They seem to be currently saying, ‘we cannot agree on this matter. At least let us agree to disagree and get on with other more important things like helping the world to avoid destroying itself and enable people to find God, especially the young’. Most of us would agree with such a sentiment and wonder why, instead of the costly and debilitating effort involved in fighting this culture war, the contenders cannot agree to a truce. But, as we know, there seems little sign that the successors of those who plotted at Kuala Lumpur are ready to pull back. The war does not seem destined to stop without one side surrendering and allowing the other to obtain power over the whole. If the debate is ultimately about power rather than sex, then we cannot expect it to be easily resolved.
As I indicated at the beginning, I do not propose to weigh up the arguments on either side of the divide. I have clear sympathy for those who wish the Anglican Communion not to be taken over and controlled by the same right-wing ideologies that have been on show in America under Trump. My concern in this blog is to try to unearth the causes as to why the two sides debating seem to be unable at times even to share a common discourse. For this we need to go back a stage in terms of human psychology. Before anyone is able to argue for truth, reality and freedom in a debate, they have a unique personal history and development. Reason is built on pre-reason. Before reason and proper functioning rationality emerged in each of us, there were a cluster of child-centred passions, desires, frustrations and the hope for instant gratification. Out of this chaos of an unformed personality, there eventually appeared the rational person with thought-out convictions. The connection between the rational adult and the irrational feelings of the child may, however, be closer that we might want to admit.
Every time we utter an opinion which we believe to be a rationally thought out and coherent point of view, we need to ask ourself. To what extent are we ever truly independent in our ideas? How far do the things we say and think reflect the jumble of emotions and feelings we have had as well as the people to whom we have been exposed over the decades right back to infancy?
I want to continue our reflection on the way we come to support a well thought-out and rational opinion on difficult issues, like the gay question, by looking at the work of Abraham Maslow. Maslow explained in an illuminating way how human beings are motivated to behave in certain ways because of a ‘hierarchy of needs’. These range from the physiological (food, warmth and rest) to social needs and others reflecting the human capacity for self-transcendence. I want to suggest that strongly held beliefs and opinions reflect and are intertwined with these various needs that inevitably influence day to day human functioning. Let me explain.
At the bottom of Maslow’s pyramid are some needs that have to be met for our physical survival. If our parents had not provided for these basic needs, we would have died. There is then another cluster of needs that provide for our social development. A child left without interaction, touch and mental stimulus may survive in a physical sense, but, like many Romanian orphans, he/she will be stunted and handicapped, mentally and emotionally. Beyond touch and proper stimulus is the need for attachment and sense of safety. Depriving any child of these things will probably create, then and into adulthood, compensatory behaviours. These represent a desperate need to receive what is their birth-right. Feeling safe and properly attached to others are among the experiences that everyone needs and deserves, enabling him/her to grow up as a balanced human being.
The need to feel safe is one of the basic requirements for all human beings. Maslow’s theory predicts that every child and every adult will reach out to seek safety when they sense its absence. When very young we looked to parents to provide for our safety but as we got older, we had increasingly to take responsibility for our own safety needs. Wise parents are constantly reassuring their offspring that they are safe. There are rituals for doing this, like night-time ‘tucking children up’. This can be enormously helpful in learning to deal with childhood fears, like that of darkness. When fears are overcome the child will possess a secure platform from which to explore the world. As adults, we also find that there is an instinctive mechanism inside us which sets up a certain tension and anxiety whenever we feel unsafe. We then strain with our whole being to remove that uncertainty and fear. Prayers and rituals of protection can play a large in the religious observance of many.
Among other Maslow needs identified in the hierarchy, is belonging. As with safety, this word points to a major element in religious language and practice. To belong, to be part of something bigger than ourselves, is what makes the religious quest attractive. It also resonates with and runs alongside our need to be safe. People in church environments are taught to seek and receive ‘salvation’. This is the promise of God-given safety which will carry us through this life and into the stage beyond death. Identifying the way that the beliefs and convictions that we hold resonate with the needs identified by Maslow is a useful thing to do. Having identified primal and pre-rational facets in our religious observance, it becomes easier to understand how religious arguments do not normally reflect pure logic and reason. Belonging and being safe are among the primal needs which belong to both our religious and social identities. They exist long before we articulate religious beliefs or argue doctrinal positions with others
One idea that has come to the fore once again, particularly in view of the impasse between the various factions on the LGBT issue, is the Indaba idea from Africa. This requires all parties in a disagreement to sit with each other to explore, at a deep level, what is really going on in a debate or conflict. I am no expert in the Indaba process, but it seems that it could be done in a way that draws on this Maslow insight about primal needs. I have suggested that it is an interweaving of rational and pre-rational processes that together has created our strongly held convictions. Getting in touch with the primal needs that Maslow identifies in every human being, clearly takes time. We might in the process learn to understand ourselves and others better. Common sense tells us that neglect of social needs in a small child might lead to a fascination with hell, salvation and eternal punishment. Also, we suspect that an expressed need to dominate and control, which is so pervasive in some areas of church life, may come from a failure to have had other social needs met in an individual’s past. Clearly the exploration of these layers of need in each of us would require huge amounts of time, combined with trust and a readiness to explore our deeper vulnerabilities. That would be Indaba++. But we desperately need new initiatives to replace the non-comprehending failures of communication exemplified in the recent videos from Christian Concern and CEEC. The Church of England is on a trajectory to fragmentation and even destruction because human beings have hidden behind contradictory and irreconcilable propositions. There is a crisis, and we need to do something urgently to resolve it. This will include examining our vulnerabilities and seeing how unmet needs may have created serious blockages in our ability to understand and embrace the reality of another human being and their opinions.