The present outbreak of covid-19 has been an unremitting tragedy for many families across the world. But there has been, indirectly, one tiny glimmer of new light for an existing group of sick patients -those suffering with chronic fatigue syndrome or ME. What has happened is that a significant number of those recovering from the covid virus have fallen prey to symptoms identical to ME sufferers. This emergence of ME symptoms among this highly studied group of ex-covid patients has helped finally to extinguish the old notion that ME is a psychological complaint, amenable to cognitive therapy. It is beyond doubt a physical post-viral condition. It needs, and is now receiving, the attention of serious researchers every bit as much as for any other physical illness. ME sufferers can no longer be treated as malingerers. This was sometimes their cruel fate until recently. The psychological treatments formerly on offer for ME must have felt wildly inappropriate to patients lying exhausted in bed sometimes in extreme pain and with debilitating muscle weakness.
Covid-19 has had this indirect effect of finally establishing beyond doubt that ME is a genuine physical illness and not something conjured up by the mind. Something similar has also happened in the legal world. Until recently, violence against women (sometimes men) in the home was recognised to exist and offenders were sent to prison because of it. But to prove the offence, the violence had to be physical. There was no understanding in law of other forms of psychological violence behind closed doors. Bullying, gaslighting, harassment, financial control and humiliation did not constitute offences that could be challenged and punished with the weight of the law. In short, nothing could be done unless there were broken bones or black eyes. Once again it was a case of ‘if we can’t see it or define it, it does not exist’. Finally, in 2015 there was introduced into the law of the land the notion of ‘coercion and control’ to describe cases of psychological violence against a partner in the home. Suddenly police and lawyers were permitted to punish a behaviour that had always been there, but not hitherto properly named or recognised.
For the Church there is a similar reticence over the concept of ‘spiritual abuse’. Definitions of this idea are being offered by a variety of writers and researchers, but the Church is still reluctant to commit itself to outlawing any of the range of behaviours that would come into this broad category of description. Physical violence in the church is rare. The case against John Smyth in England and Zimbabwe was exceptional and extraordinary. It goes without saying that his behaviour and that of sexual abusers is clearly against the law of the land and will meet the sanctions of imprisonment when proven. Spiritual abuse is, however, difficult to define. Also, some Christians find the expression offensive since it might suggest that certain practices extracted from Scripture could be harmful. But before we get into the question of objections to the idea, we need to look at some up-to-date Church documents where the reticence for the term is revealed.
A recent attempt by the Church of England to describe the range of abuses which it wants to outlaw, is found in a document published in June 2019. This is the one that provides the guidelines for the Past Cases Review (PCR2) process at present under way. PCR2 is a massively expensive process which hopes to uncover, by examining all church records, a full picture of the abuses which took place in the past but were never dealt with. In the Protocol and Practice guidance, the document states These behaviours may include physical, sexual or emotional abuse, neglect, discrimination, theft, fraud and financial exploitation. There is no separate mention of spiritual abuse. This would lead one to conclude that Church of England is not yet ready to commit itself to any definition of such an idea. It is thus all too easy for the Church to proceed on the basis that if we have not identified it or named it, then perhaps it does not exist.
It hardly needs saying that if spiritual abuse as a category is left out of the PCR process, one massive area of pain and suffering among victims is going to be ignored. The scrutineers trawling through hundreds of documents in diocesan and central offices are effectively going to be closing their eyes to a dimension of suffering that, for many, is more significant than the physical or the sexual.
What is this spiritual abuse which survivors speak about? There is one recent book by Lisa Oakley and Justin Humphreys which sets out the case for this category of abuse being a reality. They see it as a genuine and acute cause of suffering even if some involved in professional safeguarding, together with many church leaders, would prefer to proceed as though there were no such thing. What is this spiritual abuse which the Church of England authorities are reluctant to accept? Oakley and Humphreys realise that there are problems that make it difficult to offer a watertight definition. The broad description speaks of an abuse event where manipulation, coercion or control take place within a church/spiritual setting. In the book by Alan Wilson and Rosie Harper, there is one memorable turn of phrase which captures the way that human and spiritual facets are sometimes combined. The authors speak of an abusive episode ‘outsourced to God’. An individual is maybe forced to endure a punishment like enduring ostracism from an entire congregation. Perhaps a Christian is forced to do something against their will. Those in charge manage to dress up the unpleasant experience as being an obligation due to God or to the words of Scripture. What are in fact taking place are, in reality, human power games which have become cloaked with the supposed authority of the divine. These obtain their capacity to wound and harm individuals precisely because they appeal to deep seated spiritual beliefs and loyalties held by the victim.
A failure to have any secure or even working definition of this area of harm we call spiritual abuse, weakens the PCR process. The Church has access to a great deal of expertise in this area and this surely is sufficient to produce an interim definition suitable for the ongoing process. It is perhaps fear of theological conflict with those on the powerful conservative fringes of the Church that has created this reticence. Many have become accustomed to exercising ‘spiritual authority’ in ways that easily slide over into abusive practice. These practices would include the physical (biblically ordained!) chastisement of children, dramatic and terrifying exorcisms and so-called conversion therapies practised on members of the gay community. The wide-spread use of fear techniques in ‘biblical’ preaching to encourage conversion and financial giving is also ethically questionable. When a Christian meets such ‘coercion and control’ techniques within a church setting, they should question whether they are encountering spiritual abuse rather than the Christian good news. The use of fear-laden language within church life can quite often be an exercise in bullying abusive power under the guise of bible teaching.
In a letter to a survivor, which I have been shown, a senior safeguarding official promised that a definition of spiritual abuse was under active consideration at the national level. Can I suggest that as long as there is no working statement about spiritual abuse and a determination to stamp it out, it will leave the PCR process half-done. It will also allow the Church of England to keep their eyes averted from the huge range of suffering individuals who have met spiritual abuse in one of its varied expressions. A failure to identify an evil when it comes before you is a serious matter. The medical profession was blind to the pain of ME for decades; the legal profession/courts for a long time refused to acknowledge women emotionally battered by their partners who used the tools of psychological torture. Is the Church going to join in this tradition of wilful blindness by refusing to see the incidence and severity of what we are describing as spiritual abuse?