
The law of the land wants to believe that everyone over the age of 18 is an adult and thus capable of making rational responsible decisions. This assumption that all of us are completely rational and able, at all times, to discern and act in our own best interests is of course a dangerous myth. It is not that we are permanently irrational in our thinking. The problem is rather that each one of us is potentially, at any one moment, subject to any one of a whole variety of influences, pressures and even threats. For Christians we even find that the precious faculty we call our conscience is capable of being blown off course by external or even internal forces.
As an example of what I am talking about I want to imagine a hypothetical situation in an old peoples’ home. In charge is a power-obsessed woman who is anxious to run the home for as little money as possible. This will get her into the good books of the owners whose only interest in the residents is that they all pay their fees on time. The power of the manager over her under-appreciated workers who do the day to day caring is total. The atmosphere is tense. The carers are daily aware of the short cuts that are forced on them to enable the extra profits to be made. There is strict control on how much time can be spent with each resident and how much food can be served up at mealtimes. Most of these carers are from overseas and so their immigration status is insecure. The manager knows that her power over them is such that, if they are sacked by her for any reason, not only will they find it difficult to get another job without references, but their ability to remain in Britain is compromised. Needless to say the carers often have no savings as any excess money has been sent to their home countries.
In such a situation of fear, continuous threat and power abuse, how far can we say that the care worker has the capacity to make decisions or operate in accordance with their conscience? The carer wants to make sure that the distressed elderly person has the attention they need or the alternative food to replace an indigestible meal. We would say that such an act was from conscience or internal goodness. But, in performing this act of kindness, they face the wrath of the manager, if they are found out. This tension between conscience and fear is at the root of real stress and may eventually be the cause of physical or mental breakdown.
It is not just in care-homes that such a scenario is possible. It could happen in any work situation including an Anglican parish. Many curates in their first posts live in a permanent state of stress for fear of upsetting their ‘training’ incumbent. I place the word training in inverted commas, because from what I hear from my limited knowledge of the life of deacons, the period of training for curates is often regarded as a matter of sheer survival.
In any work situation where managers, vicars or bosses are given the power to fire or wreck the careers of those under them, it should be possible for someone from outside to come in as an external referee. What needs to be identified are the dynamics of power in that situation. Are employees already living and working in an environment of threat, fear or coercion? If any of these dynamics are identifiable, then safeguards or check and balances should be put in place. Why should anyone come under a situation of effective tyranny in the workplace?
One of the things available to us today is a far better understanding of the dynamics of power within institutions and even domestic situations. We can now describe better with the language of various disciplines, including social psychology, what is taking place in a situation of conflict or dispute. Two words added to a piece of 2015 legislation in the UK have empowered many women trapped in abusive relationships. Those words, coercion and control, have allowed the law and the powers of the State to have a say when one party in a domestic relationship uses psychological controlling techniques on another. In the past the only interventions by the legal system that could be made were where when actual physical violence was used against one party. The new understanding of power in such relationship now extends to the use of psychological violence. It is not just the sticks and stones that hurt; it is also words, threats and exercise of coercive power that do serious damage. The law of the land now finally gets it.
This blog often discusses the existence of narcissistic dynamics within the Church and it is gratifying to find that, over the past ten years, the discourse using this terminology has grown enormously. The value of having toxic narcissism discussed in so many new contexts is that people are faster in their understanding what might be going on when powerful leaders (or mini-tyrants) start to become intoxicated with their power. The clear description of the process of narcissistic dynamics helps us to get a quick handle on many situations that perhaps baffled us in the past. Understanding nearly always helps one party to demystify the situation they are faced with and regain some control over it. Interestingly, one of the tasks that I can usefully do in my retirement, through the medium of this blog, is to talk through with an individual a power situation being described to me. Then my task is to reframe it with a fresh set of categories, which may include the language of narcissism. The threatening Archdeacon can sometimes be interpreted in a way that his exercise of power can be seen to be closer to a childish tantrum than a dispassionate exercise of justice. I refrain from giving examples here, but the simple act of reframing a situation with a new language can be enormously liberating for the victim.
When any of us encounter power dynamics in the Church, it is all too easy to surrender to that power and allow ourselves to be dis-empowered in the process. A more subversive approach is to challenge that power, not by facing it head-on, but simply by understanding it better. The dynamics may seem complex and hard to disentangle but sometimes this process is not as difficult as we think. To tease out these deeper meanings within actual exercises of power within the Church is one of the things I am learning to do in my retirement. Light can be shed on the abuses of power. Understanding them, when they take place in the public arena or in the Church, is what I shall continue to do as long as they occur.









