In Part 1 I commented that this collection of liturgical resources shows a lack of sensitivity to issues common among survivors, despite the repeated claims that the work was ‘done together with survivors’. In the week since its publication, the grounds for this claim have become doubtful. I emailed the Bishop of Exeter, who wrote the introduction, last week to enquire which of the materials had been written or chosen by survivors. So far I have had no reply. It transpires that neither MACSAS (Minister and Clergy Sexual Abuse Survivors) nor the survivors on the NST (National Safeguarding Team) were consulted at any point. Worst of all, one survivor who is quoted was not asked for permission to use his material.
We have yet to discover the truth of how Towards a Safer Church was put together, but the Liturgical Commission has laid itself open to the charge of wanting to appear as if it is listening to survivors, without doing the work. Sadly this lack of honesty and reluctance to listen and understand is the common and consistent experience of so many of us. They have not yet learned that it won’t do. This collection of resources is not what we would have wanted to see, and does not reflect the insights we could have brought to the project if we had been asked.
In Part 1 of this blog I discussed ‘triggers’, the use of words, images, or concepts that remind survivors of the physical, emotional, or sexual abuse they have suffered. It will be obvious to anyone studying the resources in this collection that quite a lot of it contains triggers. The suggested hymn ‘O Lord, you search me and you know me’ is one example:
when [I] lie down, you are before me…
with everlasting love you besiege me…
there is nowhere on earth I can escape you…
Can you imagine how that sounds to someone who has been unable to escape the attentions of an abuser? It’s terrifying.
Another difficulty with the collection is what nowadays is aptly termed ‘othering.’ This is the attitude, ‘These people, who have been abused, are exceptions. They are not one of us.’ As a cathedral dean once said to me re. survivors: ‘People like that don’t come here.’ He was wrong – not only was he talking to a survivor, but it later transpired that several of the choirboys had been sexually abused by the previous dean. Child abuse of all kinds is common enough that it’s never safe to assume there are no survivors present in any gathering. When we add to that those who have been assaulted or abused as adults, it’s wise to presume that there will be survivors in attendance. They are not ‘other’, they are part of us.
‘Towards a Safer Church’ features two prayers headed ‘For survivors’ who are referred to throughout as ‘they’. Moreover, the prayers characterise survivors as experiencing ‘pain and vulnerability’; ‘darkness and loneliness’; ‘despair’; being out of touch with their ‘true selves’; and a lack of confidence. This very negative view is unlikely to encourage people to be open about their history. Our positive qualities – resilience, toughness, and (often) empathy with the powerless – should be named and given thanks for. Although the intention to pray for survivors is a good one, better prayers could be found or written. Janet Morley, Nicola Slee, John Bell, and New Zealand priest Erice Fairbrother are among those who have already written good liturgical material, and might write more if we asked them.
Here I want to ask a question which used to haunt me: has the Church nothing to offer victims apart from the forgiveness of their sins? Of course forgiveness is important – but what can we offer those who have suffered because of someone else’s grievous sin and crime? What I looked for here, and found mostly lacking, was a concern for justice. The Bible is full of God’s concern that justice be done on the earth, and justice characterises the Kingdom of God. We can confidently pray, then, that victims of abuse will find justice.
Finally, the constant emphasis on guilt in much of our liturgy is not helpful for many, perhaps, but especially for those who have suffered the false guilt and shame of abuse. Once the Confession has been said and absolution pronounced, why keep mentioning our guilt and unworthiness? Christ has dealt with that. Years ago, in an effort to maintain a more positive note, I wrote the ‘Prayer of Joyful Access’:
Jesus, brother, you sat down at table with women who sold their bodies, men who sold their souls, and those whose lives were traded by strangers. You ate with them, and when you broke the bread wine and laughter flowed As we feast with you now, may your bread strengthen us, your wine warm us, and your love cheer us for the days to come. Amen. (in Praying for the Dawn, Wild Goose Publications, 2000)
It speaks of the welcome Christ offers to sinners and victims alike, and the hope we have for the future. There is a wealth of good material we can and should be using. I will close with a few lines from one canticle, ‘As One who Travels’: But you have blessed me with emptiness, O God; you have spared me to remain unsatisfied. And now I yearn for justice; like an infant that cries for the breast, and cannot be pacified, I hunger and thirst for oppression to be removed, and to see the right prevail.
So while I live I will seek your wisdom, O God; while I have strength to search, I will follow her ways. For her words are like rivers in the desert; she is like rain on parched ground, like a fountain whose waters fail not. Then shall my soul spring up like grass, And my heart recover her greenness; and from the deepest places of my soul Shall flow streams of living water. (from Women Included, SPCK 1991. Unattributed)








